Signs of Delayed Child Development
BY JEN AMBROSE
Let me start off by giving you a virtual high-five. Because if you're reading this, it means you're vested in understanding and supporting the kiddos in your life. And remember, each child is like a snowflake – unique and special in their own way. Just because they might be doing things at their own pace doesn’t mean there's a big red flashing alarm. But, it's always a good idea to keep an eye out.
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Signs of Delayed Child Development: A Mom's Gentle Guide
The Baby and Toddler Stages
"Oh, they grow up so fast!" We've all heard it, right? But what if your little one seems to be taking a bit longer to reach those cute milestones we often look forward to?
If by 6 months your baby isn't showing signs of rolling over or seems floppy (or on the flip side, super stiff)
If by 12 months, there's no attempt to crawl, and by 18 months they're not yet walking. Remember that cute penguin walk? It's a rite of passage!
By 12 months, if they're not making babbling sounds like "ma-ma" or "da-da"
If by 24 months they’re not speaking at least a few words. But trust me, once they start, it’s like the dam gates have opened!
By 3 months, if they’re not smiling at familiar faces (come on, who could resist your lovely face?)
If by 12 months, they're not showing interest in games like peek-a-boo. Yep, the one where you disappear behind your hands. I mean, we're basically magicians.
Baby (Birth to 12 months)
Vision and Hearing:
By 3-4 months, if your baby doesn’t respond to loud sounds or follow objects with their eyes, it might be something to note.
By 7-9 months, if they’re not reacting to facial expressions or turning towards familiar voices.
By 6 months, if they don’t show any interest or curiosity in surroundings or don't respond to familiar toys.
By 9-12 months, if they aren't understanding basic gestures like waving 'bye-bye.'
Emotional and Social Development:
If by 4-6 months, they aren’t enjoying playtime or don’t have varied emotions (like smiling when happy and crying when upset).
By 9-12 months, if they appear unusually passive, not engaging with caregivers or not expressing separation anxiety from primary caregivers.
Toddler (1 to 3 years)
By 18-24 months, if they can't push a wheeled toy or can’t hold a crayon.
By 2 years, if they're not able to walk up and down stairs even with support.
If by 15-18 months, they don’t point to show something of interest.
By 2 years, if they can’t sort by shapes or colors. Picture a toy box scenario – everything goes in, nothing is categorized!
Language and Communication:
If by 15 months, they haven’t used single words.
By 2 years, if they don’t use two-word combinations (like "more juice" or the classic, "no mine!").
Emotional and Social Development:
By 18 months, if they don’t seek your attention or aren’t keen on pretend play.
By 3 years, if they’re showing minimal interest in other kids or don't play pretend games (like playing house or "cooking" in a pretend kitchen).
By 2 years, if they can’t help undress themselves or have difficulty using spoons and forks.
By 3 years, if they aren’t showing interest in potty training.
The Preschool Years
The age of exploration! When the world is their oyster, and every day is an adventure. But what if Dora and Diego have been exploring a bit more than your little one?
If by 3 years, they have difficulty running, hopping, or can't handle basic puzzles (those big chunky ones where the dog piece pretty much screams, "Put me in the dog slot!")
If by 3 years, they're speaking less than half the time in sentences. "Me want cookie!" counts, though.
If they're not following stories or can't tell you about their day by 4 years.
Social and Play Skills:
If by 3 years, they're more interested in playing alongside kiddos instead of with them. Like, "I'll build my sandcastle over here, you stay there."
If by 4 years, they don’t engage in imaginative play. No tea parties or pretending that stick is a mighty sword? Might be worth noting.
The School-Going Munchkins
Here come the big kids on the block! Backpacks, shiny lunch boxes, and all. But what if your child seems to struggle a bit more than their classmates?
Trouble with buttons or using scissors by 6 years. And no, I'm not talking about that one time they gave their teddy a haircut!
Learning and Communication:
If by 5 years, they have a hard time with rhyming games (you know, cat, hat, bat, gnat...).
Struggling to understand instructions or often forgetting what they were just told.
Difficulty making friends or often feeling left out. Oh, my heart! But remember, it's not about quantity but quality.
Now, breathe. Phew! That was a whirlwind tour, wasn’t it? Remember, these are just signs, not certainties. And like that one time you tried that 10-layer lasagna recipe and had to adapt, children too develop at their own pace. Some take a shortcut, and some take the scenic route.
A mix of dolls, video games, first crushes, and everything in between.
If by age 10, they struggle with activities like hopping, skipping, or bike riding.
Having a harder time with hand-eye coordination tasks. Remember that dreaded catch-ball game?
Learning and Communication:
Struggling with basic reading or math concepts that their peers seem to grasp.
They seem to have difficulty holding a conversation or often mix up words.
They're often feeling isolated or don't quite "get" the social cues. Like laughing a tad too long at a joke or not understanding sarcasm (though, let's be honest, some adults still struggle with that).
Stay Observant, Not Obsessed: Notice any signs? Keep a diary. Jot down what you observe. This isn't a 'gotcha' journal but a 'let's see how we're growing' journal.
Engage and Play: Sometimes, all they need is a little push. Not on the swing (well, yes, that too), but in their development. There are tons of age-appropriate activities out there that can promote growth. Like sensory play for babies, counting games for toddlers, and interactive stories for older kids.
Seek Guidance: If you have concerns, speak to a pediatrician or a child development specialist. They’re the real superheroes in white coats and can offer a wealth of advice.
The Bigger Picture
Alright, so we've talked about the signs. But it's also essential to view these signs with a broader lens.
Nature vs. Nurture: Sometimes, a child's environment can influence their development. For instance, a kiddo who hasn’t had many chances to play with others might need a bit more time to warm up to group games.
It’s Not A Competition: Your neighbor's son might be a math whiz, and your friend's daughter might be the next Beethoven. But remember, your child has their own strengths. Maybe they're the future Picasso or even the next top chef. (Those cupcakes they made last week? Delish!)
Let's Chat About It: Engage with teachers, other parents, and even siblings. Sometimes, getting multiple perspectives can offer clarity. Little Jimmy's teacher might tell you he's a chatterbox in class, or Grandma might have noticed he’s a pro at memory games.
Creating a Supportive Environment
If you’ve noticed signs of delayed child development, one of the best things you can do is ensure your home and their learning environment is supportive.
Fun Learning Tools: There are a plethora of toys and games designed specifically for various developmental stages. Board games, interactive books, and even certain video games can be both educational and fun. Win-win!
Group Activities: This can be a game changer, especially for social skills. Team sports, music classes, or art groups can help kids learn collaboration, patience, and other essential life skills. Plus, there's the added benefit of making new friends.
Routine is Golden: Children, especially those who might be lagging a bit, often thrive on routine. A consistent daily schedule helps them understand what’s coming next, which can be very comforting.
The journey of parenthood (or guardianship) is like riding a roller coaster. There are ups, downs, loop-de-loops, and sometimes you might even want a refund on your ticket. But at the end of the ride, you realize it was all worth it.